Allan, from your post I can see that you haven't understood what the writer of that book is saying. He is saying that there isn't any choice in the matter. A person can tell themselves all they like that their soul/spirit is not, and was not, involved in lovemaking, or that "connection on any other level is not vitally necessary." Yes, they can have the 'absolutely wild orgasms' and all the rest of it. But, as long as we are living, breathing, human beings, the soul is connected to the body just as much the foot is connected to the ankle bone (an' all dem other bones).

The connection is vitally necessary in the very real sense of the word vital ! If the 'you' part of you ain't connected to the 'body' part of you, you are not a live body any more, just that bunch of dry bones !