Please tell me what is one to do when the love is still there after lots of years but one partner has no desire to confront the lack of physical love? The relationship is as open as can be, affairs are no problem but not desired. Toys, talking, and all of the above noted to no avail. Work, stress all problems still no motivation to even try alleviating those. Will it always feel like brother and sister? Glimmers of hope few and far between keep one hoping, but separate bedrooms are a goal to lessen the pain of lack.