Richard: I agree with you when you say that "fourteen days is plenty long enough to decide if you are sexually attracted to someone." The attraction occurs a lot sooner than that. In my experience, it is pretty much instantaneous. You don't seem to understand: I was (and am) sexually attracted to this man, and he to me. I explained to him that I wanted to get to know him longer before going to bed with him. In this instance, that meant he went away and has not contacted me again. This is fine by me: His reaction tells me that he is NOT interested in me as a person, he is interested in what he can get from me. (Either just sex itself, or using sex to gain from me in some other way). If I had gone to bed with him right away (as some people have advised on this thread), how long would it have taken for me to learn this about him ?