some of the better anon postings I've seen are on this thread. It's really very complex, the intelligence in interactions and communications. Last night I saw a speech from a rep of our governor, which was pretty darn good--except the speaker had no idea where he was or who he was talking to. I think most people cut him some slack, granted him a mistake. pretty bad one, but, okay.
I suppose some people thrive on some trouble and confrontation. I bring my little bit of edge and combativeness into play partly in verbal sport, and partly--I imagine--on behalf of those who let themselves get stepped on by loudmouths. I know nice people who won't take up for themselves, and when I might let something pass for my own sake, I still feel I should be a watchdog for people who are essentially nicer than me. I recently explained this to my contractors--I think I ought, on principle, to file a complaint. Some people can't get out a skillsaw and fix a dangerous ladder installation. And, by the way, since I paid y'all to do it, I don't like it that I have to fool with it. It takes my breath away that they left on the sticker that explained that the installation was utterly wrong and unsafe. With pictures, too.
There may be some prejudice against people with loud voices--I'm quite sure I was biased against the kid who always shouted things like "throw me that bag of weed" in my bedroom when I was a teen living with my parental units. But I'm also exasperated with people who make no effort to be heard, and mutter urgent requests out the open window of a car. bluh buh, bluh buh bluuuuuh!
   So how about if people take a little responsibility for suiting their mode of communication to the time/space continuum? How about that? Quit ordering things that sound fancy but then eating my standard plainer fare off my plate, please, honey. If you want fries, order them goddammit. If you don't care much one way or another about an issue, don't yell about your preference, please. There are, in fact, these basic building blocks of civilization.