Crystal,

Mudcat's been down so you have apparently not gotten your PM yet. In brief, my PM outlined that my comment had not been directed at you at all-- in fact I had not even read your post, but responded directly to AC's.

My post was aimed at the likelihood of future posts' advicing-- and written in response to AC, whose thread this is. You see, I've been around here long enough to see what happens when someone says they just need to vent, as AC had just said. People generally need what they say they need, and it's too bad when a pile of others' experiences floods their grief process.

It was not about you, and I am sorry that when you took it personally, it hurt your feelings. However I think that you owe me an aplogy for attacking me, publicly, instead of PMing me for clarification or to protest.

As jeffp says, I don't snipe. If I had wanted to aim something at you, most likely I'd have quoted your post and responded to it to say why and how I disagreed.

I'm sorry it has to be ironed out in public-- I'd have preferred to let PMs do their job, and let this thread remain AC's. But since you persist in raising this, and in feeling badly, I thought it best to attempt to relieve your upset with the facts.

~Susan