I am posting anonymously for reasons which will be clear. I've been a member of FSGW for about 20 years, I've been attending Getaways for most of that time. I get upset reading Getawaymemories threads each year with all the entries from the We-All-Love-Each-Other-So-Much crowd. People just love each other, singing together, love helping each other by giving rides etc, giving parties, inviting each other to their homes or any place to sing together. I'm just not a member of the in crowd. I'm shy, I get lost in the crowd. Even though I'm shy, I love to have friends. I have some friends who I cherish. I'd like to connect with more people, so I force myself to overcome my shyness and start conversations with people everywhere -- sessions, meals, workshops and singarounds, the crafters' tables, while standing in line for meals etc. I'm still an outsider. It really hurts. I'm a nice guy, I help people whenever I can, say nice things, etc., but my outreach is not returned often. I know that shy people are frequently overlooked, but, hey, it's been 20 years at FSGW and almost as many at Getaways. It's time for someone to say "hello" at the very least, maybe even include me in activities or say "thank you" for my kindnesses. Think about it. Try to be friendly to shy people.