Hi Mary, Jon and I are thinking of you and sending all kindest thoughts. Perhaps a fight like this is what you need just now to keep you from giving up? Perhaps you need to use this to be angry. As so many have said, you both will know when the time is right. If it is any comfort, you were here when one of my best and closest friends died last year. I never had the time to say goodbye. Use the time you have been given wisely and be together. Remember to say everything you want to say however sloppy or stupid it sounds at the time. You'll never forgive yourself if you don't.
Much love.xxx