After 4 years of being in a heartbreaking and miserable relationship, I have finally called it quits with a man that I care very deeply for. I have just recently learned of Aspergers and I'm convinced that beyond a shadow of doubt that he has AS. I have spent hours researching AS on the internet and have spent this evening reviewing past threads on this subject. The problem I'm having now is, neither one of us ever suspected that there was a concrete reason for our painful lack of communication, intimacy and emotional connection. My question is to anyone who has an opinion is this...should I tell him that I strongly feel he has AS or should I just let it be. He's 57 and I know that it would be impossible for him to be any different. He's a good person, and I feel so bad for blaming him for being so indifferent and unloving. I don't think he would be open to hearing about AS as he has always rationalized his behavior. I'm just wondering what to do. Perhaps if he did know, he wouldn't have to spend the rest of his life, wondering what the heck happened and why I was so upset all the time.