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paula t BS: 'Some rape victims should take blame'- ?? (839* d) RE: BS: 'Some rape victims should take blame'- ?? 19 Feb 10


The argument that "some" women deserve or ask to be raped makes me so angry!I was attacked at the age of 16 and my crime was to walk alone through a park at teatime on a summer evening.Luckily a passer - by saw the guy jump me and chased him off before I was hurt, but that terror is still there.

Rape has absolutely nothing to do with sex and everything to do with inadequacy and a need for power.I think it is insulting to men to suggest that if a woman dresses provocatively she is causing herself problems. The men I know would never dream of raping a woman - no matter what she was wearing or how she behaved , or how far the situation had progresses before she said "No".The rapist will choose anyone as long as they are in the wrong place at the wrong time.

I remember a discussion many years ago with some year 11 girls (15 -16 yrs)during a sex education lesson. One girl said that "boys can't stop if they get excited". I waited for the objection from the other girls, but they merely nodded agreement.It turned out that quite a number of them believed that boys were physically incapable of "stopping". I asked them what would happen if a boy was with a girl at home, and his parents walked into the house.Surely he would be able to stop then, no matter how far things were "progressing?".There was a stunned silence, then a loud outbreak of choice swear words. Many girls, it seemed ,had fallen for the myth that a boy being disappointed and frustrated was the same as being physically incapapable of self control.We had a long discussion about not getting ourselves into difficult situations in the first place, but having the absolute right to say no at any time.

Sorry to go on here, but no means no, and that is not dependent on the dress, age or behaviour of an individual. After all, who defines "provocative" dress and "sluttish" behaviour? That could merit a thread of its own.


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