It can be harder on those around you than on you yourself. You have to cut people some slack to re-adjust. I have rights. So do they. I am the one living it every day. I do not live in a vacuum. My life has affected many people in very positive ways. But I also know some people were hurt because of some decisions I made and went through with.

My life, without thought for those around me, would be very much a sadder place. I give people time and space. For those who have only ever known me as female it is easier. For those, like my family, who knew me prior my gender realignment surgery, it has been harder for them to adapt.

You simply have to remember that not all who get it wrong mean it wrong. I know the difference between a mistake and maliciousness. Most folk do not deliberately hurt you. You have to keep that in mind too.

anon

(thanks Virginia Tam)