Some people are exceptionally high maintainance and still others will never be pleased no matter what you do. There comes a point where the minusses far outweight the plusses and it can become quite destructive to one, the other, or both in that relationship.

There comes a time when you need to take a stock on some relationships. Even if you have been the wrong-doer and have sincerely seen the error of your ways and have said sorry, some will never forgive. I confess, when it comes to something like deceits and lies I am almost totally without forgiveness. Lots depends on just how valuable the relationship is/was but the more valuable it is the less forgiveness I have for certain indiscretions (lies and deceit). Discrimination and deep rooted bigotry I have no time for at all but, when it comes to relationships, one some has to discriminate for your own good.

When taking stock I look on it like a bridge with a weight limit that I have to go over. I have to decide what I can carry and take over. Sometimes some of the weightier things have to be left behind to make my load lighter. If the bridge collapses because of too much weight on it then we all perish.

I hope things resolve for you with whatever you are trying to save. Do the sums though. Some relationships become way too costly to you personally

mp