I think the phrase I may have or not paraphrased is one I have used often from Ally McBeal... "We are women... we have double standards to live up to!". I have used it with levity in several light-hearted and not so light-hearted threads here on Mudcat. Alas, I cannot take the credit for that one

My self deprication is based on the principles of getting an insult in about me before someone else can and, often, an honest opinion of myself. People think I put myself down when all I do is tell the truth through my own eyes. I have no need to put myself down. There are plenty in life who will gladly try to do that for me.

C'est la vie!

What it appears you are alluding to in your male/lust, women/fear situation happens all the time in many other animals. The females often allows an intimidating/coercing male a chance to mate literally to get him off her back! Male can be a nuisance and the sooner he goes off to find sex somewhere the sooner she can get on with feeding again and increasing fecundity in many cases. Thankfully many human females have discovered the plusses and minusses of such behaviours and the addage that "God loves a trier" gets nowhere close to the poor female who just wants the potential suitor to get lost somewhere and leave her alone. God may like triers but I think women (on average) still prefer men to be gents and not be pratts! Let them go try somewhere else! Most women do not see men as rapists but some can sure be a nuisance. On the other hand, a Gentleman is always a pleasure to spend time around (but that is only my opinion)

I digress lol

mp