A few weeks ago, the partner of my great niece hung himself, leaving my great niece (disabled) and their infant son with no income. I never met the guy and felt no desire to travel 600 miles to attend the funeral.

So we got an idea and sent my great-niece a check for what it would have cost us to attend - about $1000. Later she told me that she had been having sleepless nights worrying about the utility bills she faced. The money helped her there, and I was glad. I'm telling this story because all the etiquette books and all the therapists don't seem to mention that a newly-bereaved person probably needs money.

She could not stand to be in the house where she found him. The family has rallied and moved her a couple hundred miles to housing where she's closer to her parents. Too bad the baby is parted from the three big cousins who doted on him.
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I think Gargoyle's jealous because he hasn't had any nice encounters with cute little kids lately. Let's just let it go. (I can't read the yellow print either.)