Thanks again for more advice. I like the idea of learning the song from the last verse backwards that sounds worth a try! I was thinking of doing a little prompt card for myself for gigs with the first word of each line on it...I would do the card credit card sized and have it inside my hand! There is something reassuring about knowing the words are there as a back up!

I actually agree to a certain extent about deckmans comment about selfishness-it does help to think that you are giving yourself to the audience and they feel more comfortable and are more forgiving if you are as relaxed as possible. Its better to be relaxed and forget the odd word than uptight and word perfect in my opinion!