Well if you are real, your stance is coming over as unrealistic.

You say people should only use a church if they take the words seriously. But with the exception of pete, I have yet to read a post from someone whose calling card has "Look at me, I'm a Christian" that doesn't qualify which parts of the Christian faith they buy into and which they dismiss as unrealistic.

What's the difference between them and those for whom a church is the traditional part of key family and friend events?

I suppose there is hypocrisy versus honesty but other than that, nothing. When someone says they want to uphold a tradition, but don't believe that it means anything beyond that, it seems like honesty to me.

After all, how many Morris dancers feel they are real Morris dancers because their dancing will help produce a good yield in the fields and bed chambers? By your reckoning, you have to buy into pagan superstition in order to do the Winster gallop....