Hey, I wasn't being flip.

Yes, people who want to be happy long-term need to realize that it's very rarely about 'adventure'. And that can be hard to accept.

But there is also, in my opinion, a real scarcity of mature, centered, good men such as one finds in Joe Offer and other members of this community. Life can be tedious AND full, AND good and fun, and satisfying. But until you find the partner with whom this can happen, all kinds of "bad" (wink to Janie) choices will be made.

It's like food (yes, it always comes back to food with me : ). Yes, broccoli is good for you. And steamed fish. But Doritos are margaritas are SOOOOO much more satisfying.... in the moment. A middle ground is needed, but hard to find in the morass of getting-through-each-day, which make simple good-and-bad decisions so hard to make well.

Dani