Triplane: No, I don't think that's right either. I know several women who've chased men who were already in relationships...invariably the "edgy, exciting" men, though, rather than straightforward,"safe" men.

In fact, one of the women who sees me as a "girlfriend who happens to have a dick" (see my other post above) is very intelligent, usually very ethical, doesn't even break speed limits, but to my knowledge had either made the running herself for, or acquiesced when chased by, four men in the last 3 years who were already in relationships.

The last one has obviously just dumped her as yesterday she splashed all over FaceBook...."warning, M****** *****, your Fiance, A*** *******, has been cheating on you for the last 6 months". I happen to know that the A*** she named was a guy who'd been chasing her whilst engaged and who she eventually gave in to 6 months ago (because he was edgy, exciting, dangerous, etc, etc....) and has been having a torrid affair with for the last few months. She had bursts of feeling guilty about it when she'd dump on me about how bad she felt, but he was just too "exciting" to give up.

This is a 39 year old, otherwise "grounded", attractive woman with a PhD and an excellent career. Three years ago she left a 7 year relationship with a great bloke who thought the sun shone out of her arse, because he was "too boring". He wasn't actually....he did extreme sports, played a mean guitr, travelled, and was ethical/ strong-minded enough to have been part of those "overthrowing a tyrannical state" alluded to above... but he was also straight as a die, completely loyal and very "safe" for his partner.