"Do not dismiss people as bigots because you recognise it before they do. "

so it "unfair" to label someone as a bigot because they are not yet "enlightened"? Yet by very definition they are engaged in bigotry... so how long do they get a free ride?

a person who strongly and unfairly dislikes other people, ideas, etc. : a bigoted person; especially : a person who hates or refuses to accept the members of a particular group (such as a racial or religious group)

Full Definition of BIGOT: a person who is obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially : one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance.

sorry... that smacks of double standard... actions/behavior must have appropriate consequences if you seek to alter negative behavior. or are you expecting divine revealation to "show them the light"?