Good point, Mcgrath of Harlow. Maybe a better word would be to 'acknowledge' it.   I think calling it (at least internally) what it is can keep us from self-blame, guilt, recriminations, etc.   Passive-aggressive people are great at doing that. That woman in "Don't THink Twice" who "could have done better but I don't mind".   It probably wasn't her stuff at all.......just because she decided not to be a 'servant' to this needy guy.   But......the song is so artfully written (effective passive-aggressive behaviour is almost an art) that she could be prone to feeling guilty for not meeting all his needs.