Not my face to face experience Jim. I'm not saying that you are wrong, I can only tell you that this is not how the family sees it.
The exact phrase used to me was 'We ain't going to be made a fool of no more'
Who ever is right or wrong is a trifle compared with the fact that it's killed the Gypsy singing tradition stone dead in the family.
'We don't sing the songs now, we just put the tape on'
My main point in this post is that pointing out the facts as you have done above is understandable, but exactly the wrong way to treat the Travellers. I now don't think I'm going to get a reply from the Guest above. This is not me having a pop at you, far from it, but when Travellers feel abused you must try and gain their trust. My pal Walter Lee said to me 'You cheat me once, shame on you. You cheat me twice, shame on me!' That's where we are at whatever the truth. I could probably defuse it, but it would be a long and difficult job. I was hoping our guest would give me an e-mail and send a phone number, which would be a start.