Instead of a thread about gender-based language, this has slipped into a discussion of trans gendered people--still somewhat on-topic. If it goes any further down the bullying/personal attack route, it's not going to last much longer. Subject-based, fine/who-somebody-is-based not fine.
Just a prediction

Ake said "no child was ever put under pressure to address their sexuality in my young days"

Well, yes, assuming we're in about the same generation, we were. You might have missed it because you weren't aware of anything that personally affected YOU.

I was told--and my mother found a fairly objective way to put it--"some people think girls shouldn't climb trees or play with toy trucks or want to be a cowboy". Again, the language. I didn't want to be a cowBOY. I wanted to do what cowboys did and be a girl.

When people start telling you what you should or shouldn't do based on your gender, they ARE putting pressure on you to address your gender--what you probably mean by using the word "sexuality".

I'm probably never going to fully understand trans people because I'm not one. I make mistakes, but I try to listen to people and learn.

What may be a kernel of true evil inside some people is whatever thought process tells them they have the right to tell other people how to live their lives when the greatest harm those other people can do is piss them off. Let those addicted to feeling offended take responsibility for their own living hells.