Keb, I visited a friend's house this afternoon because she had some fabric and notions for me or my daughter. I knew her kids were working on the house, and when I walked in I could see it is a major intervention in a hoarding situation. I'd considered messaging the older daughter to ask if they had plans, but they took the initiative themselves.

My participation today was to take away a number of usable items they don't need that can be offered on the buy nothing or free sites in my area. It wasn't a lot, maybe a cubic yard of stuff, but every little bit helps and my friend is ok with it. (Resigned?) They do ask about things, they're not just rolling over the top of her. (Her yard is piled with big stuff like furniture that is functional but surplus - I told them about the groups I'm using, the FB buy nothing and Freecycle, and I think they'll join and start listing this weekend.)

I don't suppose you have any younger relatives out of college for the summer looking for a job to do for a while? To work beside you on the task? I think the fact that all three of her kids (plus one friend of the kids) are there at the same time makes my friend so happy the sting is mostly gone from the reason they're doing the work.