As a singer (unaccompanied) and a bodhran player, I sympathize totally with the predicamant ... and have THOROUGHLY enjoyed some of the "solutions"!!! Rather annoying when one individual seems totally lacking in both manners and sensitivity. Perhaps a LARGE sign posted in advance saying something like "The etiquette police will SHOOT/THROTTLE/SKIN/FLIP THE TIPPER of any git playing a bodhran who does not respect the other players." Gives us all rather a bad name! Hope the situation resolves itself soon, for your sake - he should be spoken to, I feel by the person/people acting in a host capacity. And I'd also get the other musicians onside ... chances are, you're not the only one who has been irritated to distraction! (it's true, you're NOT alone!) Cheers from Canada!