They do mend, as long as you don't keep picking at the scabs. You can't spend your time thinking about what you should have done/said or whatever. If you do then you'll just miss out on something else. It's something we all go through so you have to remember that your experience is far from unique. Sometimes you just have to accept that what's done is done (and there isn't even a referee to blame) and in time you realise that they're not quite so special. They're just as crap as the rest of us with the same failings and foibles. Forget all this 'we can still be friends' drivel because you can't. Not for a long while anyway. Keep yourself away from them for years, otherwise your just picking. Let it mend first. Trust me (!). I know.
You don't ever forget, but you do reach a time when you don't mind remembering.
JC
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