I invite you all to have a look at my two posts in the Open Letter from GUESTS to Max thread. I have copied and pasted some information on ethical and unethical, and successful and unsuccessful moderating of website message boards like this.
It might be helpful for people to read it, and share their feelings and views about the suggestions. Also, see my links provided in The New Mudcat Order thread, which I also gave in hopes of bringing people together to work on solutions for the good of all who come to Mudcat.