"I prefer everyone to see things like I see them"

But that'd mean you never got to see things from another point of view. Like having the music played in mono all the time.

In her life of Chesterton, Maisie Ward wrote about the relationship between Gilbert Chesterton and his youinger brither "They always argied. They never quarrelled." That's the distinction I mean.

And I don't mean that argument is just a game, and that the things you argue with and disagree with shouldn't be recognised as serious. They can be life and death issues, but that's no reason to lose your temper. As LadyJean's father put it - "if you do lose your temper, you can't think clearly". Like other types of fighting in that respect.