My oldest came home after college, got a meager job, settled back in to the rut he would still be in if we hadn't told him he needed to get on with his life. He did, soon thereafter met his future wife and lives 30 miles away, happily married with a four year old grandson for us! My 2 daughters pretty much went out on their own soon after finishing college, both live within a hundred mile radius, and we more or less talk to them all everyday. Today they are all coming home to help decorate the Christmas tree.

It seems the natural order of things that they may need to spend a month or so from time to time staying with parents while they transition to new employment , etc but moving home should be no more than a measure to get through a tough few weeks, not a permanent one. I have always said that I put Gidion Bibles on their night stands in their old bedrooms so they knew that although they were welcome for short stays, they needed to not get too comfortable! grin