Heather's statements are the truest ones you will hear, Allison. I remember the first time I didn't think about my daughter for a day, that I felt guilty when I realized it. Felt guilty the first time I laughed after her death. Felt guilty when I didn't dream about her, didn't think of her first thing in the morning -- all these things happen, and they are a sign of human resilience and health and healing.

The tears help more than anything else.

Good post, Heather.