Two Bears, one reads into the remarks a level of correction on your part that seems inappropriate. Pardon me, but the term "levels of grief" is so very clinical, and not really how it feels when you lose a loved one.

I ask you to give his Mudcat commmunity the opportunity to express their sorrow and to ask him for his stories about his wife without your approval. It's not required.

It has been my experience that stories are what we are all made of, and stories are how we teach and share. And when Raptor is ready, I would like to hear his stories about his wife. The laughter of love that comes when one shares a story about the recently departed is as pure as the laughter of a small child.

SRS

Funny, I would have sworn there were no bears in Hawaii.