As an aside, and perhaps now may not seem the time to bring it up . . . but it is, . . . talk to both the in-laws about advance directives if you haven't already done so. Naming a power of attorney for health care and creating a "living will" is a terrific way to avoid many presently unforeseeable problems later on. And don't just fill in the blanks, . . . take a few hours to really think about what they want to say and then discuss it so that everybody (and I mean EVERYBODY) knows what they want done or not done should it become necessary for someone else to make the decisions.