I don't see much use for sympathy. I have none for special needs kids because it doesn't help them. Yes, I have hugs for kids with various degrees of difficulty, but the goal is that the children become as self reliant as possible. I know that sounds a bit cold, but that's the way it is for me.

Empathy: now there's a different thing altogether. That indicates the beginning of understanding. When I teach a special needs kid, I want to be able to do that. I have to know where their heads are at if I am going to be of any use. Ask any parent of special needs children if they have ever been in tears because they followed through on a punishment (no TV for three days; no cake after supper because you broke the deal). However, sometimes that's the way it's gotta be. I have greatly appreciated the honesty of people here. When I posted what I did, it was not an attempt to garner or gather sympathy. I am open about hyperlexia because I don't see anything wrong with being who I am. I learned long ago that if you discipline yourself, no one will have to do it for you.

Part of the problem kids with special needs have is the lack of discussion about special needs. People keep it locked away, and sometimes keep their kids locked away. That is beginning to change. And it's about time.

I suppose we are a bit different, but then who isn't. I see wonderful people being so gentle with the whole subject that I feel a sense of real gratitude: the times really are changin'. Thank you.

I posted also because so many special needs people feel isolated and alone. Hell, we ALL have special needs. TtR who writes beautiful poetry is in the process of losing the woman he worships from afar: Martha Stewart (sorry Thomas, I couldn't resist); I know you will get me for that). Also, sometimes a disclosure of that nature helps others realize that they are not alone.

Jeri, I have never had any trouble understanding you. Now, that's a scary thought, isn't it?

Later,

BM