Five years ago I met my partner and the same night I asked her to stay over. She refused and I thought more of her for that. I knew then that I wanted to get to know her better before anything happened. I have said to her that if she had stayed I probably would never have seen her again. We are both middle aged and have been separated from our previous partners for more than six years. I misread the situation and am so glad I did. Instead of a one night stand I have found someone whom I can happily spend the rest of my days with. Perhaps I did react that first night like a horny teenager but because she had more sense I have found more than I ever expected. Stick to your gut feelings on this one. Somewhere out there is a man who will take all the time you need and more. WE