I'd advise joining groups or clubs that are related to things you like to do. In that way you will already have something in common with the women you meet. Most of the time it is the specifics that we find interesting rather than the generalities to which you have referred. How does she spend her time when she's not dancing, watching romantic films or walking the beach in the moonlight?

By being here at the Mudcat you are already a part of a very large group. Yes, some of us do get together from time to time - however a lot of us are like Jerry and rarely see other Mudcatters. But what you need is face-to-face stuff on a more regular basis. Get yourself to the local song circle or civic organization or hobby group meetings. You might be surprised what you'll find there.