Thanks for your comments, Allan. Part of what I was trying to say, at the end, is that I don't always know exactly what I want out of a relationship. That complicates things. It feels natural to flirt w/ some folks. That doesn't necessarily mean I want them in my pants. Perhaps it's better to try to control flirting, but, perhaps, the opposite sex should also give equal weight to the words that are said. Flirting can be a lot of fun for both parties, but I don't think it should be assumed to be foreplay.

I have found a lot of men I like, respect, &/or am attracted to. They are "out there." Unfortunately, in our age group, the majority of them are already in relationship.

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