Sorry, B&B but what the author says is equivalent to what one well known TV sex therapist says about orgasm. She says it is completely impossible without fantasy. I bristle every time I hear it. She is so utterly wrong. I know that it is so very possible to become so lost in the moment that fantasy of any sort is neither possible nor necessary.

I think the same sort of thing is true with regard to separating the spiritual connection from sexual intercourse. Absolutely wild orgasms are totally possible without that connection. All both parties really need is a very strong and mutual desire to pleasure one another. Connection on any other level is not vitally necessary.

In the immortal words of Tina Turner, "What's Love Got To Do With It?" Well, actually there is a connection. Read on.

On the other hand, I would be first in line to agree that having that spiritual connection adds immeasurably to the experience. I just think the author has the whole concept turned inside out and sideways - as we are fond of saying in the south.