Someone told me recently of a quote from Erica Jong--she said she looked at pornography for 10 minutes and wanted to go home to have sex. Then she watched some porn for 20 minutes, and never wanted to have sex again. It's a fine line, making it work without repulsing you or reminding you of the issues that are behind so much pornography these days. Some of it is erotic, a lot of it isn't.

I have heard recent news stories talking about the choices men can make--to take something like Viagra for the incidental times when sex is available and on the agenda. Or take something more general like a testosterone suppliment. It increases libido more generally and allows for some spontaneity. Testosterone also works for women. After my cancer surgery (hysterectomy) I did a lot of research into hormone replacement therapy. It was very clear that replacing estrogen wasn't enough, you also had to replace the testosterone because the ovaries make some of that also. As one of the PBS lecturers (during the membership drive program) said: "if you give a woman estrogen after the surgery, she's physically able to comfortably have sex, but without the testosterone, who cares?" Upon inquiry, a formulary (compounding) pharmacist said that for women, up to about 2mg of methytestosterone is fine, but above that, they complain of the hair growth, etc. I don't know what levels are recommended for men.

For what it's worth.

SRS