guest grateful reader. Have you ever considered taking a lover? Would your partner be upset if you did? It sounds to me like you need to bolster your self esteem, and a good looking young man often does the trick .It worked for my partner when I lost interest in sex a few years back ,made me jealous as hell but I got over it. Women and men have different clocks when it comes to sex, whether for physical or pschological reasons , women often get hornier as they get older. You only live once.