Grateful Reader,

You can guess at what might be wrong with him until the cows come home. But if he is unwilling to discuss the matter or to investigate counseling, etc., then your efforts, no matter how well intended are in vain. Yes, you are the victim of his problem(s), but the root issues are his. He has to want to work on them. He has to believe that to do so is vital to your relationship. Until he becomes convinced that it is important enough to do something about, you can look forward to the status quo for the rest of your time together. I'm sorry, but those are the facts.