There's something about being a songwriter that causes people to confide in you. So, I know two men who found their wives refused sex after having children. "no need for that anymore" they said.I spent two hours with one friend as he poured his heart out about this. He loves his wife, and loved having sex with her. They've talked, he's asked if she'd contemplate counselling. She says no. He says "Maybe I need a mistress". I know another man who just doesn't find his wife attractive anymore. He loves her still, but she's grown fat, and he married a slim lady. His equipment just doesn't function when he's confronted by rolls of jelly.He wants it to, but he's a visually stimulated male. He can't tell her this outright because he still loves her and doesn't want to offend.So there's silence and frustration.
A woman friend just lies back...he has no foreplay or lasting power.
She's frustrated.
It's a minefield!