A few years down the line from menopause I am still coming to terms with what great changes "the change" has brought. There are the positives - no need for contraception and no dealing with "time of the month" stress and mess but on the negative side, what "came naturally" now takes a good deal more time and effort.

Before menopause it simply didn't occur to me that, as is the case now, desire would still there but the ability to achieve orgasm would be diminished greatly. Still get a lot of physical pleasure from penetrative (and other types of) sex and still think about it a lot but rarely achieve orgasm, even on my own. This never used to be a problem. Not sure it really is a problem now, but it must be similar to the age-related dysfunction experienced by men, except theirs is much more noticable.

This may be a relationship issue as my current partner and I are not able to spend much time together and have been able to spend very little time discussing what might be done about it.

Tried HRT (including testosterone) but it has not had much effect. Anyone else out there who has similar experiences? Any advice?