Bothered and Bewildered, with all due respect you sound rather sanctimonious and self-righteous about the whole matter of sexuality and sexual attraction. You also sound like you have been influenced by a load of religious crap about sexuality.

While, I agree with Alice on the fact that along with unprotected sex, we can expect STD's and HIV/AIDS, we don't encounter these things because we are BAD for being sexually liberal.

I've always thought sexual expression can and should be as widely expressive of human emotion, thought, and behavior as we have variations in humans. Sex is a pasttime, an adventure, a sporting event, an athletic encounter, a power struggle, an expression of deep love and affection, a stress reliever, an anxiety reliever, a creative event, an exploration, and so on. I do think it should be mutually agreed upon as to what's up, however....

The man who walked away from you because you didn't want to have sex was rejecting your notion of what sex was and going to look for someone whose ideas about it more matched his own. Don't make him not-okay because he didn't want to place sex within the context you have decried to be the only acceptable one....it reaks of sanctimoniousness. You don't sound like much fun.....love, harpgirl