Harpgirl, I have always thought that B&B was trying to be clear that she was only expressing her own feelings, and yet wanted to open up a discussion to others expressing theirs as well. I don't think she ever began this thread to give judgement, but only to admit quite openly that she still had her own questions and concerns about how she might now go about finding the kind of relationship that would work for her.

This thread is long enough, and varied enough to show we all have different views-some come closer in agreement to B&Bs and some absolutely are not.

If we did not feel safe to offer up our thoughts about what is, in the end, an intensely personal subject, and no one's business to decide how to proceed with their relationships, I doubt anyone would have bothered adding to the original posting..xx..e