I think part of it is being considerate. When I'm in a session, I constantly am thinking about how (if at all) I can contribute to the current song. A lot of people don't - either they get lost in the moment, or they're just there to play, I don't know, but it's often very frustrating.

Once thing that annoys me is that if I happen to be singing a song without accompaniment (something I now rarely do in song circles because of the problems) sometimes someone trys to follow along - oddly enough it's often times a banjo player - but since I am probnably not right on a key, they sort of play around me, out of tune from my song. Yet none of them have ever talked to me about working out the song and performing it together.