You don't know me. but I feel I have to write to you because I've been there myself, so far as it's possible. My father shot himself when I was 12, sixty years ago. About four years ago one of my twin granddaughters tried to kill herself. She was 15 then and it wan't successful, thank God.
There's the guilt, and there's a kind of rage; I've had enough suicide in my life, and enough of the fools who tell you that "tough love" is the answer. Or that anything else is the answer, as far as that goes.
I can't offer you any quick remedy. I wish to God I had one. What the others have said is all true, but of course knowing that isn't enough. But believe them; the grief and guilt will stand in the way, but believe them.
This is something that can't be solved, but it can be outgrown. You will prevail, and you will not be the same, but you will prevail. Writing this has been hard and slow because it's triggered some things in me, but I'm all right. I won't get over it, but I'm all right, and you will be too.
As Mudlark said, recognize the triggers for what they are, and as you said: cherish our young people and give them whatever support they need.
clint
Write if I can do any good: hclintonkeller@yahoo.com