Pussycat, I think you have to go with your instinct, and find or make the right moment to act on your instinct. Let what you do solve your questions. If you act, it's for the best, if you don't, that's probably for the best. But be very careful, because it's not about sexual orientation--in my opinion when women become interested in other women, they flirt with a very severe sort of sanity.

Ladyjean has given me the courage to admit I too am a flaming hetero--I've struggled with this for years, and may never outgrow the damage.