The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #69463   Message #1183135
Posted By: Nerd
11-May-04 - 03:43 PM
Thread Name: BS: So... are 'you da man'?
Subject: RE: BS: So... are 'you da man'?
I thought the first test was sort of funny, but a bit obvious; you "should" answer A, B was insensitive, and C was a ridiculous caricature. As Roger Ebert would say: ho, ho.

What I dislike are these precepts claiming that certain mannerisms, invented by certain classes to suit their needs, are somehow morally good and indicative of the moral goodness of a bygone age. Case in point:

Remove your hat indoors
This rule seems to have gone out the window these days. You should remove your headwear upon entering a building. Furthermore, never keep your hat on while at the dinner table. It reflects very poor etiquette.

Of course, the idea of removing one's hat was originally a show of respect, not to our common humanity, but to social hierarchy. The highest ranking person present WAS allowed to have his hat on, and indeed, the idea survives in the idea of "removing your hat to your betters." It most likely derives from the added vulnerability that comes with being bareheaded.

Furthermore, some people, like (for example) observant Jews, are not supposed to remove their hats.   So to force them to do so in the presence of a King or lord was a gratuitous affront. Why should I perpetuate this foolishness today?

My favorite is:

Help with her seat
If an unaccompanied lady is sitting next to you, it is important that you help her be seated by pulling her chair out for her and gently pushing it back into place, with the lady seated of course.

Uh, why exactly is this so important? To whom is it important? It has never seemed important to me, or to my wife for that matter...she is one of those newfangled women who thinks it's patronizing to have doors opened, chairs pulled out, or arms offered when walking (and who never wears high heels in any case!)

I also like the use of the terms "lady" and "gentleman," which of course immediately signals that these are class-based rules invented for the wealthy and powerful. For people of the middle or working classes to aspire to this kind of nonsense is rather feeble and pathetic, IMHO.

I know, I know, they're just a little humor and I'm being a wet blanket. Sorry!