yesterday I had some friends over - one is a grief counsellor in her late 50s. she is a Hungarian Jew and works with Holocaust survivors and their children. Her parents are Holocaust survivors.

She said yesterday (while talking on another topic) that the generation that have survived the camps have two ways of dealing with it. They either never mention it, or they mention it every day.

Those that don't mention it havent forgotten, they still see their camp number tattood into their arm every time they shower.

I have another friend who worked as an art therapist in psychiatric institutions for a decade and a half. She is of the view that for some people, it is better not to talk about it, that there are other forms of therapy that can assist, that some people don't want to pick at sores.

I did gestalt group therapy for about five years. it was a fantastic experience, there were 8 women in the group, a fantastic therapist, it changed my life very positively.