I think it's a joint effort and people have to be willing to listen to one another. I also think that it is a learned skill. I personally have always played in a band or orchestra and find it easier to listen to the other instruments around me. What makes this more difficult is when the singer thinks they are the whole band and have no understanding or tolerance for newbies. Working with folks who do show patience and work as a group..is much more enjoyable. I agree with Robin, the ego business has to be in check for everyone involved.

Michelle