There is a middle way. Theory need not be terrifying. Its a series of puzzles, an exploration into relationships, and a new language. On an intellectual level if you can cut up two dimensional fabric and sew it together to create a three dimensional object then you can understand theory. Theory is a helpful tool. It can help you name things that you're hearing and it can also lead your ear into new territory. Gargoyle's comments aren't really scary and neither are Rick's. They comment on their own personal experience with a particular subject. The subject is still there and you can approach it in whatever fashion you wish to; challenge, bugbear, mild interest or impossible dream. I find theory fascinating but know that my knowledge of it is piecemeal and that my ear needs far more training. I still sing because I like singing. I don't feel either big or small I feel human.