You have to go back to Bobert's initial thread and see what the situation was when the wife got mad. They had just arrived home from vacation. What was she doing -- unpacking? Preparing dinner? Doing other chores? And what was he doing? Chores? Scratching his belly and saying ahhhh, good to be home? Drinking beer? Hitting the hammock?

The other aspect of the situation involves the money thing -- he with 90%, her with 10%. It's unfortunate, it stinks, but it's reality that money calls the shots. If you look at her garden in terms of cost and profit only, why bother watering it? Why should Mr. big 90% water it?

Also, notice another poster suggests "take her" shopping for shoes. Money thing again -- he gets to "take" her shopping. I don't know one woman who would not prefer to have the financial autonomy to make her own decisions on whether or when to shop shoes or anything else.

One final, rather unpleasant note. Men and women seem to see things differently -- selectively? Women see what needs to be done, IMO; men don't, and teenagers don't.

End of lecture.